Ignorance – Weapon and Survival Tool: Bad Behavior

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Lately, our lovely Himali of Decoding Happiness posted about Silence. This was extremely inspiring and thought-provoking because she asked the reader to think about how ignorance impacted their lives. I don’t want to repeat what I commented on her post but instead, I want to look at a side of ignorance that can even be healing.

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The word ignorance automatically feels negative. We equalize it with intolerance, cutting off reality, or discriminating others with a deliberately restricted view. Through ignorance, you turn away from issues to be discussed. They aren’t solved by ignoring them but grow and make the situation only worse. In the end, it comes back to the ignorer. But there can also be something positive about ignorance. Because as with everything, it depends on how you use it. The most beautiful rose can become a weapon causing terrible injuries when you scratch someone with its strong big thorns. Ignorance can keep us from living but also can actually help us feel alive again. And here we are again at choosing thoughts. It can give you a break from the pressure of circumstances until you are ready to deal with them again. Ignorance is the decision on what to focus. Ignorance can be the salvation we need in order to detach from bad influences.

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Here a little example: For many years, I thought I had to take and accept whatever others threw on my. I let them abuse me and manipulate me. I thought I don’t have the right to turn away because I was not the person of hurting others. But I forgot that others don’t have the right to hurt me either. My low self-esteem always put others above me and so I could not escape the narrowing energy that took my breath and oppressed my soul. Then when it reached a point where I was at my lowest I finally understood with 1000 glowing light bulbs that I have the right to put myself AT LEAST on the same level. If they don’t like that then it is their problem and not mine and I am entitled to ignore that problem – as they ignored how I felt about the way they treated me.

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I started to ignore them pulling on my energy. I started to ignore their demanding requests on using me for their own benefits. I still noticed but I did not react. I only responded to respectful and kind behavior. After a little while, they developed a different attitude towards me. But there was a particular effect which appeared at the same moment when I decided to ignore the bad energy: I experienced the most explosive liberation. Only the conscious decision to break out of their claws – and not caring about their reaction or opinion – enhanced the awareness of my own worth. It was the moment when I realized that I was allowed to have my opinion and that I am not wrong even though others want to make me believe so because it wasn’t fitting into their plans. It was the moment when I forgave them because only through their behavior I reached that point of breaking free. And I understood that ignorance can be a sign of fear too. I must have had a lot of power I did not realize and therefore, I must have always been the stronger one.

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The healthy side of ignorance is not turning away from what is or what was but refusing to let it dim your happiness, your self-worth, your zest for life, your life, and what you want to make of it! Know that you are powerful! People who are ignoring something about you might fear that something about you. Don’t make yourself a slave of their limited view about you. Don’t even fight back or it will only create a counterforce. Instead, try to ignore other people’s bad and respectless behavior and pay as little attention as possible. Stay nice and be a good person but don’t sell your soul.

Don’t be the victim of other people’s ignorance or be ignorant in an unhealthy way. Rather be the mirror.
Because in the end, what was ignored was only postponed to be dealt with.
It is all coming back.

Thank you for the wonderful inspiration, Himali!

In Love and Light

 

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I can so relate to this Erika.. It took a long while to break the habit of obeying others when they said JUMP and I said How High… A habit that began as a child .. A wise post my friend… And well done you for taking the steps you did.. ❤ xxx

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It was the moment when I forgave them because only through their behavior I reached that point of breaking free. And I understood that ignorance can be a sign of fear too. I must have had a lot of power I did not realize and therefore, I must have always been the stronger one.

This is one of the most beautiful and inspiring post I have read lately ! I so agree with you. At times ignoring negative energy is so essential and yes it truly makes us feel empowered. We overcome the pain and with time learn to forgive the ones who have hurt us. So much love and hugs to you, Angel Erika ❤

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It is so true. When we are able to understand that the attacks of others are only a sign of fear or insecurity gives us that kind of strength that makes us forgive. Because we see that it is their struggle and not ours. Thank you so much for your beautiful comment, dear Himali.

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Good inspiration post and perspective, Erika. When we choose to ignore the negative energy from others, we are not excusing them we are not letting it drain our positive/good energy. All will be dealt with in time.

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You say it! If they decide to act in bad ways for what reason ever we should still stick with our way and never join their low energy. There is a natural justice in this world and it is not up to us to take care of it. What you send out will get back to you. Wonderful comment, Syl. Thank you!!

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Wonderful post Erika 🙂
While we are very young, we are more easy to be manipulated, because our self-esteem isn’t in the top. One day we wake up and see the world, as it is and often become a little scared for our new knowledge and what to do with it.
I’m happy that you found your way, dear friend ❤

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That’s so true. Thank you for adding your thoughts. Indeed, insecurity generates a survival instinct and we start to defend ourselves from something we feel as harmful because we cannot deal with it. I love how you said this here. Still finding new ways… lol 😊

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I feel like this around work. I am the “always available guy”. I end up working a lot doing the grunt work while everyone else vacations. I cannot tell you how many years I skipped vacation so others could have them. That ended last year. I still am learning to take a regular day off.

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Wow, you really need to change this. Nobody is better than another one. And you need your vacation too. I understand that it is not easy when you are so used to always step back. But never feel guilty. You have the same rights like everyone else. You deserve it even more after that long time!

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