What makes me think lot these days are the tough tests the kids in the UK have to pass. My soul sister Ritu posted a lot about it lately since she is involved as a mom but also as a teacher. As far as I understood the government changed the guidelines too short noticed and now the students have the toughest time to pass those advanced tests. Teachers are struggling because they need to follow the orders but are heartbroken seeing good and diligent kids being frustrated and completely discouraged. The pressure to fit into a certain picture already starts to shape them in such young years.
Our society is still not able to support the kids in the things they could do so well. I know that we all have to learn some basics like maths and languages. I totally agree! But why cannot other skills be considered too? At least one school subject should be granted to choose freely in addition. That would give them the chance to not lose their joy about learning and to get a better result all over. Most of all they would not feel like losers. That would motivate them immensely and might even affect the other subjects positively. They would not feel so nervous but rather excited to pass the tests.
But however, it made me think. We all are born into this world with a certain program for our soul. Part of the program are for example the society we have to deal with, our surroundings, our personality, our skills, and all the many destinations we want to reach. The roads we walk in order to reach the destinations are preparing us for the destinations. We learn so much through the hardest disappointments and develop and improve skills and characteristics which are necessary for the places we are meant to arrive. A seeming failure leads us to a by-road which is often the important detour to meet people or find insights which lead us to the actual main street. You would have never walked that by-road without the failure which was actually only the distributor road.
I don’t say that it is easy to accept it when things are not turning out the way we planned, hoped, or wished. And it is ok to ponder about the why because this also leads to insights. But never despair of things that did not work out. Instead, be aware that it happened for a reason. Look out, be curious, and be attentive for what comes instead or what develops from it. The best way to deal with disappointments and failures is to still be true to yourself instead of trying to fit into a shoe which simply is too large. If you really want something from your heart then stick to it and don’t give up. There are many ways or perhaps you only needed a bit more time to grow into that shoe.
When my family moved to Liechtenstein I was 9 years old. I was thrown into a different school system in the middle of the school year and I was one year younger than the other kids. Maths wasn’t my favorite subject and I struggled a lot. I couldn’t catch up. I was good in every subject except maths. I was so bad that two years later when elementary came to an end I was considered for a low school level. I felt ashamed most of all because I was repeatedly shown and told how poor it was…. it was a hard time. But after one yearI changed the school to the higher school level. I only needed that one year to grow into the show. It wasn’t always easy on the other level and the pressure was huge. But I made it. I successfully completed my apprenticeship too and was good in my job. But the pressure to perform as a chief secretary was heavy. When I had my children I was really happy to leave that place of pressure which I felt it wasn’t my thing at all. Instead after a while, I started working on myself, studying, reading, learning new things. This all lead to my break through, I wrote my books and here I am! June 1 will be my first day at work and you know what? It is a job as a secretary but it is different and I am different today. I am thankful for the pressure I experienced before and for what I learned about myself. It was all for a reason to arrive here. And where I arrive today is only the start line for where I will be tomorrow.
We are making our way and what happens is the road of preparation. As parents and teachers we often cannot do anything about it but to encourage our children. We can offer our support and show them that we are always there. But most of all we need to show them that they are amazing and perfect the way they are and that no test results ever define anything about the precious being they are. They must not lose the faith in themselves. The more they appreciate who they are the more they are in tune with their own special trail which will always lead them to their destinations – either way!
In Love and Light