It is hard when we are in a place of frustration or desperation. When life turns into a rollercoaster ride and you don’t know anymore if you are up or down. And even if you know it changes constantly. Somehow you back off but at the same time hope that someone sees it – feels it, because you don’t want to say anything – and is just there.
But there is also the other side. When you see that someone you care about is going through a rough time and you have no idea what you could do to help. You don’t know whether to say something or to leave the person alone because they don’t show clear signs they want help. The less you know about the person the more difficult. Not easy as well to watch someone suffering and almost physically feel the pain of that person. This is what I experienced several times in my life. We cannot force someone to pour out their hearts. Sometimes they can’t for reasons we may not know. And it is ok then.
Listen to your heart, offer a hand, an ear… or a hug. At times a hug or even only the offer for a talk suffices. It shows them that they are noticed and not alone, and it can give them the necessary power. Perhaps you know that person well enough and know that he or she only needs an impulse to open up. But if this person doesn’t want help or any talk then we need to respect it. It is not our life, it is not our path, it is not our history and it is not our way of dealing with challenges. That is the hardest part for the one that wants to help. That way the helper is forced to work on him-/herself as well.
Then we can only open our arms, send love, and be there in case…
In Love and Light!
Wise words. I could relate very much to this post. I have found that if I am “intact” and happy within myself it is much easier to be rejected when I offer out help.
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Exactly, because we are not identifying our worth with the acceptance of others. Thank you, for taking the time and reading all those posts, Merryn 😊
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Wonderful post.
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Thank you, Linda! I loved writing it! It is always hard to see where a person goes to and let making them their own experiences. The closer the more difficult…
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Reblogged this on georgeforfun.
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Lovely article. Sometimes just saying “Im here if you need me is enough”
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Right! 😊
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I really wish everyone realize and appreciate what they can normally do. One heart and two hands are more than enough to give and share.
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That’s the basic. If this is not available… there might be no help.
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Sometimes there isn’t anything you can do, even though the person is desperate for your help. It is painful to need help and see that no one can… So, silence is our best friend, avoids even more frustration…
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Exactly. Sometimes we can only be there and let time work…
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Hi! I was just liking your great choice of music! 😉
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Hey, cool!!! I am happy you liked it and enjoyed it!!! Thank you!
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those are some of the songs that brings good memories, thank you for that. You sure have the sun inside you, very refreshing. “:)
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Awh, thank you!!! I don’t what to say. Those songs are definitely a part of myself. Therefore your words mean a lot to me. Thank you so much! Big hugs to you, Trinity!
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To you too. Sometimes that’s all it takes to help someone just a bit. I am doing all I can to feel good and keep fighting to stay above water, you sure help always by being yourself out here. There you go, helping someone who can’t be helped but can be fed with the good in the world. Bear hug. I can’t thank you enough.
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We can only give what we have. In the end what we really have and never lose is love. Because love is who we are. In giving love we give from ourselves … and this is the greatest fulfilling. Thank you, Trinity. I am blessed that we met!
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Me too! I am taking care of myself as much as I can, that’s why I don’t come here as often. I need me but now and then I come here to see what these beautiful people are sharing. Always a pleasure… 🙂
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Feel free to visit whenever you feel like it. You will always find open arms here! 💖
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I’m sure I will. Take care and please don’t ever change.
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What a motivation not to…. 😃 You are such a sweetheart!!!
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I have to say, yes I am LOL I saw too many people change their energy to a very dark one. That’s what I always ask people not to change. Grow, evolve but don’t ever change your energy if it’s already a gift.
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We all evolve constantly… and sometimes we have to change our energy even to the negative in order to find back and cherish the positive even more… and for that we need lovely and supportive people around… you are one of them 😊
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I agree. We have to go through hell and back to become wiser and stronger, my problem is with those who have chosen the darkness as their nature, they can damage too much and condition many lives or even destroy them.
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That is very sad indeed. The more important it is to make everybody know that it is never about the person that is bothered. It is always about the one who is bothering.
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Great work… I can truly relate to this. Thank you for sharing it, dear 🙂
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Thank you, Nimmi. You are such a sensitve person. Therefore your words mean a lot to me! 🌻
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Aw!! You are such a sweetheart. Thanks a million, dear 🙂 ❤
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🌺 🌼 🌺
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I walk that line daily with loved ones. So many stories. The hardest is that I want to “fix” my children, save them from the depressive issues I suffered at their age. It is their path, and I force myself to back away. I respect their intelligence and decision making ability, but always want them to know that they are not alone. Very sensitive post. ☺ Van
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You said it simply perfectly. That is right the point. The closer someone feels the harder to just let it happen. I produced a song about my best friend and me seeing where he drifts to… “Chained Hands” Here is the link https://erikakind.wordpress.com/songs/my-own-productions/
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Okay…that one made me cry. I’ve struggled with those “chained hands” lately. Thanks for opening that up a little…it was needed. p.s…Lovely lyrics and a special voice…you have so many gifts, Erika, and you use them well. Van
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This is interesting. I read a poem today on a blog and it also caught me at the right moment. Isn’t it interesting how at times things simply fall into our lap… I hope you are better now or at least found a little relief. I made peace with that chapter… and I am fine. But it took me years! Therefor I totally understand you. Thank you for your lovely honoring words, Van!
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A great write. I wrote something in my diary about this. Somehow giving help is easier than accepting help…
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Absolutely! You are so right! We often are so hurt and used to deal with everything by ourselves that we either don’t want to bother others or we are so caught by ourselves that we simply cannot open up. That’s harder. Then we are imprisoned in ourselves. Wonderful comment, thank you!!!
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Imprisoned in ourselves but waiting for that one person to break the lock. I know it happens with me sometimes 🙂
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Yes, I hear you! Often we need an impulse that strikes the right string in order to start vibrating. Those are wonderful moments, right?
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